Friday, July 20, 2012

Do you plan time to spend with your spouse?

Do you make sure you and your spouse have time together as a "couple" instead of as "parents"?

My hubby and I are fortunate that our kids go to bed quite early (Kyle normally by 630, but if he doesn't nap then 5pm) and Julien generally by 8pm at the latest.

This gives us time to re-connect - whether it is sitting outside on the porch, backyard, or watching a movie. We have time to talk about our day, what is going on and for me to fill him in on what the kids have been up to.

We used to make sure that we got out at least 1x 2mths, but since having Kyle that hasn't really happened. We are planning on making sure it does now though.  When you have a baby that will only fall asleep after nursing, and needed to nurse at wake ups, it made it a little difficult for me to leave him. It didn't bother me though, I knew that by nursing him,  I was going to be tied to him until he gave it up, and I was happy to do it.

Now that he has finished though, I am looking forward to getting out of the house with my husband more frequently. We have our first one planned for next weekend - we will be going out bowling and for drinks with another couple.

What type of things do you and your partner do on your date nights? Movies, dinner, drinks?

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  1. Ahh date nights. We love trying new restaurants! You remember the kind with linen and wine? We bring the kids to these restaurants BUT it is different with just the 2 of us.
    Hocky games are a big date night for us too.
    Enjoy your dates!

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    2. We used to love going to hockey games too....been a while since we have done that though

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  2. What's a date night? Just kidding (kinda). When we do go out it's generally for a nice dinner. Or sometimes to a house party with good friends

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    1. It's so easy to end up not making time for each other with everything else that life brings at us

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  3. Urgh. This post made me cry. Why? Because I don't even remember when the last time I had a date with my husband was! I won't count the time we went to a funeral together. That certainly wasn't my idea of a date.

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    1. sorry - didn't mean to make you cry. It's hard to make the time, there is so much "stuff" to be done.

      Even if we cant get out - when the kids are in bed we spend the time together (which oculd be spent doing laundry, or tidying, but we spend it together instead)

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  4. We never do anything as a couple. We were going to go out for dinner on our anniversary, but then I felt bad about not including the kids so we got take out instead and had it at home. I think though we are going to plan a lunch date this fall when all the kids are in school and he is on afternoon shift. Pathetic, huh?

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    1. I have trouble leaving the kids too - but most often when we go out they are already in bed - makes it easier

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  5. I'm not married - but I can see how you can get away from spending special time together when you have children - they take up so much time and energy but with love

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    1. yes, I love spending time with them - and it is VERY easy to lose site that your not JUST a parent...there are other aspects that make up our person

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  6. honestly we don't do date nights but our kids all go to be by 9pm so we can spend some time together after they are asleep :)

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    1. that's us for the most part. I am looking forward to getting out of the house more than 1xyear though now.

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  7. We spend each night after the kids go to bed as our time! Our kids go to bed early too! I wish we had more date nights, finding someone to watch 4 wee ones 6 & under is a challenge!

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    1. I can imagine it would be. We had a great babysitter - but she has graduated high school now and working, so not available. Lucky that our parents are willing!

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  8. We tend to date at home a lot. Simply because our family lives quite a far distance from us. When we date at home, we love to sit outside by the fire and enjoy a nice chat with some music. We'll also order in some Chinese or something too.

    Usually if we have a sitter, we'll head downtown into the city. I'm a suburban girl, so this is quite the treat for me. We'll hit up a pub, and rely on transit to get home. :)

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  9. Our kids took a while but generally go to bed at 8pm now, which gives us all night to hang out and watch tv or get daycare stuff ready for the week. As far as date night's go, we like dinner and a movie. And karaoke every now and then, but those dates are few and far between.

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